Continuing the theme of human relationships, it is not easy to say what you think. Although there are times you have to be prudent, there are other times when you have to say what they really think. It is important to recognize that we have reviewed, although not that like most others. Always good to say what one thinks without offense, but respecting ourselves to our ideology and our personal aspirations. Do not let the desire to please forces you to think of others before yourself to the point of thinking against your interests.

You can not please others betray yourself. If you do not think and do not say what you think the other has all power over you ... Now: What's wrong with wanting to please others? In principle, want to please others is not bad, quite the contrary. Quite another thing to need the approval of others for all as we commit ourselves. Seeking the approval of others is only a real problem when you feel that such approval is what keeps you. First, for those who need to have the support of others they are dependent on them, causing them to lose self-esteem and self-confidence.

Another problem with the seeking of approval is steadily leaving you vulnerable to being manipulated by others. When others discover that they are anxious to please them settle in, knowing that everything will go well, because you will do everything to achieve it. Over time, people who constantly seek the approval of others enter into a vicious circle that is hard to leave. Not only because you get used to validate your choices, but because others will push and act knowing that depend on their opinion.

Constantly seeking the approval of others means being constantly worried that others are forming a bad opinion of us. That make you feel vulnerable and victim of other people if you are happy or not. This ends the fun, creativity, kindness and spontaneity of life. From time to time you also have to remember yourself, to please, to feel proud of yourself / o, but not everyone approves your desires and aspirations. This is not being selfish, quite the contrary. A person who is satisfied with himself and feels it is far more useful for others, because he is happier and has more desire to live and be useful to others.

Remember that whatever you do will always be letting someone. Seek approval is usually an attempt to try to win and maintain a sense of control. If we can make the "happy" to be what people imagine they want to be, then we will not be rejected or abandoned. But you can not control the thoughts of others nor to please everyone. Whatever you do, someone will disapprove or do not understand your decision. Nobody is a dollar that pleases everyone and yet there will always be those who prefer blue or yellow.

We must focus on what is right and be yourself. The group mentality can force us to do what we're supposed to do, but that's not always right. Not to go against many choose to meet the herd, but look what they do wrong or do not understand. That makes you enter a dynamic in which you alienate with others, you lose your personality and decisiveness. Get away from that, concentrate on what you consider right, discusses the philosophy and goals and be yourself. If you do not like that, you do not like them, why do you want to please? What brings you join a circle like that?

Do not assume that others will label at one end or the other. People who are so preoccupied with the approval of others who assume that the label on one end or the other. However, most people do not make decisions or judge others so easily simply because not approve or understand the way they do or do not add to the ways of the group. Even when you force people to tell their opinion, the fact that whatever you see fit does that negatively label you or make you lose the love of others. Contrary to what may seem, be yourself is the best way to earn the respect of others. And if you labeled, seeks to act to do so in the category that interests you to you.