Who loves you does not hurt you

Publicado por Patricio Varsariah el jueves, diciembre 3, 2015

Today I want to write about a popular saying: "Who well loves you will mourn" if it is true that the popular sayings usually hit most of the time, this time for me is not acceptable and should not be applicable. It is quite possible that throughout your life you have heard this phrase repeatedly, but I wonder: Why should offer suffering and tears to the one we love .. This idea, actually built by romantic love? brings us once again the almost inevitable concept that love is synonymous with suffering. They say that love is the most irrational feeling that exists: it is passion, madness and obsession ... And as such, suffering is inevitable as part of this human and blinding emotion. Given these visions so classic about the concept of love and relationships, I stand before the priority and the need to approach this idea for our sake, for our personal and emotional balance as follows:

It is important to note that if we accept the idea that love means having to suffer, be much more permissive early on to certain things, certain disclaimers, limits, manipulation and selfishness. We can worry about the other person, and suffer for their welfare if the circumstance occurs. However, this kind of suffering has nothing to do with that, for example, we may infringe our partner voluntarily .. Who says love today and tomorrow I leave to return within days, not love you: hurts . Love are not excuses, they are not looking ironies reproaches or harm with words. None of this makes us happy, and none of this would come from a heart that knows respect, who knows what is real, mature and responsible love. To love is to rejoice because the other person there. Loving someone is feeling joy inside and look each day for ways to make the other person happy.

Love should never be blind, we never launch into a relationship with an open heart, a blindfold and self-esteem in the pocket of the other person. You need to build a conscious, mature and responsible love. E important to never forget that who loves you will not hurt you. Who loves you with integrity and respect, will seek to make you happy at all times. Think of love as a small flame find ... you find you. It is a fire that illuminates and comforts us, but which we must revive each day to keep it, to enfold us with more intensity and perfection with its light, its heat, to make us even happier. Love must be with the maturity of two people who are complete, they see no sacrifices in their resignations but sincere acts that strengthen the bond that displace the ego to prioritize the set: the couple.

I know there are many who have decided to close the doors to love because they are tired of suffering. Because they have a heart full of wounds of disappointment, of traces of disappointment and disenchantment empty. But to love consciously and safe we must first learn to love ourselves. And though always be worth a dignified solitude a company wants, a new "I love you" with a more sincere voice will be worth it to heal the disappointments of yesterday. We all have our bones, our sorrows of the past. However, love is an adventure that always worth it at any time of our life. For it has been for me very necessary to take into account the following aspects that have guided me and helped heal the disappointments of yesterday:

I am very clear that sometimes love is not eternal. Therefore, I take care not to give everything for nothing, I see my personal growth, not relegated work, dreams and friends ... I do not leave behind what defines me, or at any given moment, I can lose everything. Without relying love: I depend on myself but never stopped build love in every detail, to encourage him in every gesture, every word. I think my self-esteem and encouragement, my identity ... I offer in freedom and integrity, without fear, without bitterness of yesterday, without insecurities that others must settle for me, show courage for what they want, and what I want is to be happy, not It is hurt. I do not look for a perfect love or an ideal relationship. There, the relationship the building every day, fitting my corner with my empty, my differences with my softness, my shadow with my lights ... love really means to grow together in the difficulties, love and understanding, is to survive with friendship, enjoy the passion and build a simple complicity, without tricks or falsehoods, because at the end you who loves you no shame, not pleasure with your tears, because who either loves you will make you happy.

Finally I fill gaps not cover my absence, do not occupy space: I love. Some people find their happiness healing wounds, other gaps. Nobody can deny that sometimes it can be reassuring to be the balm that heals past storms, the antidote to such bitterness that others left in the hearts of those who love it now. Being the key element in the daily life of loved ones is important. Now, no one is born to be a daily crutch or tissue tears or even less, this potion with which makes forget an impossible love or a love that hurt. When I offer to someone I do fully. I did not replace anyone or am the water that fills the gaps unresolved an immature person, I am not to assist but to love and be loved.

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