There are phrases and texts that reflect what a great way to learn throughout life. Every day I try to go over sentence by sentence and see what it means and how I change or understanding to improve my relationships and I these are the most important: Over time I learned the subtle difference between taking someone's hand and chaining a soul, I learned that love means not relying on someone and that the company does not mean security. ... I began to understand that kisses are not contracts or promises gifts.

Eventually I realized that one who is able to love you with your flaws, without trying to change, can give you all the happiness you want ... you realize that if you are close to that person only for accompanying your solitude, inevitably end up not wait to see her and that true friends can be counted on the fingers of one hand, and those who will not fight for them sooner or later will be surrounded only by false friendships. Over time I learned that the words spoken in a moment of anger can still hurting whom you hurt, throughout life, learned to forgive anyone does, but forgiveness is only great souls ... and that every experience lived with every person, is unrepeatable.

Eventually you realize that that humiliates or despise a human being sooner or later suffer the same humiliations or scorns multiplied squared .... learned to build all my roads on today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans .... I realized that rush things or force them to pass will result in the end are not as you expected and you realize that actually the best was not the future, but the time you were living right in that instant. Over time I learned that trying to forgive or apologize, say you love, say strange, to say that you need, say you want to be friends .... at a grave ... no longer make any sense ... But unfortunately ... we understand this only with time.

Dear friends who read me, the truth is that for certain things time is our great teacher, through whom we view and value the past mistakes, our expectations and our demands on others and ourselves. Now this does not mean that time tells or cure all, we who have to negotiate the feelings in our inner dialogue, clearly referring to our personal conflicts arising selfishness of others without burying your head. This means we must take a stand and reaffirm when playing without letting others take advantage of us because of fear of rejection or confrontation. This is the name of assertiveness and constitutes one of the basic pillars of construction of our self-esteem and personal identity.

Learn to give your absence who does not value your presence, you probably are aware of this but when the truth does not get to face the social pressure. In fact, it is normal that a situation of exploitation kidnap our autonomy and our will. But we should not worry too much because to be assertive and to assert our opinions and feelings we can learn with effort and motivation. Since it is impossible to recreate a life without risks of this kind, it is best to imagine situations that would be potentially dangerous for us and how we can deal with them without being aggressive or passive in our behavior (ie, to relocate to training place in our imagination).

Thus when an inequality is given and notice that someone is trying to take advantage of us or our will ring for his selfishness, we will block less and be able to take what we have imagined to practice. Thus we anticipate problems and we become more aware that relations should be based on reciprocity and not in the decline of our identity and our self-esteem in favor of others. It is important that we learn to say NO, to assert our presence and look within an ally to deal with those relationships based on inequality and selfishness of people who only think about themselves is why some people are always concerned.