We should avoid situations

Publicado por Patricio Varsariah el lunes, diciembre 21, 2015

There is a popular saying that goes against vice there asking virtue of not giving. It is likely to occur in couples, but also often happens between parents and children, friends and almost any kind of human relationship. I'm talking about those kinds of situations in which one party requests, claims or demands with great forcefulness, but when it comes to giving, is much more conservative and stingy.

Such people feel like they deserve it all for nothing. They also feature see "the mote in another's eye," but not the beam in their own. For completeness, manipulators are often extreme and get others to believe, really, they have to please them for nothing and to make them feel guilty when they do not meet that standard.

The links established these people are clearly exploiters. However, they manage to not see it that way and so achieve what they propose: ask for much and give little, even with the consent of the affected. It is important to avoid this type of behavior, it pays to know these situations we should avoid and help a good living.

First: Do not ask them to listen, if you know not to listen. It is one of the most frequent cases: those who want to always be talking about and that others listen, but listen when others yawn, or distracted suddenly have no more time and leave. Spends a lot with parents who want their children to be attentive to his sermons, but take the time to hear what they think. Spend on couples when one of the two becomes the "support" of the other, as if he had taken. Passes between friends, between teachers and students, among coworkers. Whenever you feel that others do not listen enough, you should ask yourself if you really listen you do know.

Second: Do not ask me to understand, if you can not understand. This is another very common situation. It gives the eternal misunderstood, they feel quite different to others and constantly complain about the indifference of others. For them, being understood is a natural right of way, but the other denied. So their complaints are aimed at blaming others, as if the others have an obligation not fulfilled. They have not discovered that understanding is a flower that grows, first in yourself and then in others.

Third: Do not ask for respect, if you can not comply. Respect is not required, you win. And among the many attitudes that a human being, this is perhaps the more rigorously complies with the principle of equity. In other words, there is no other way to earn the respect of others, but respecting and respect. Sometimes I respect with fear or reverence confused. Authority figures tend to "gain respect" through the imposition, or fear. What you get is exactly what they want: fear and submission, but not respect.

Fourth: Do not ask for peace, if you sow violence. This is one of the most paradoxical cases. It becomes visible in those who screaming tell us another scream. Or those who are exasperated and shout: "When you get desperate boxes make me leave!". It is very usual that aggressive people constantly ask for quiet. Usually they blame others for their violent reactions. Apparently, they are not masters of their emotions; if it were not for the other, they would be the most peaceful. And the mistakes of others are the ones that lead to losing control. They forget that peace is not outside of ourselves, but that is built into each. They overlook that everyone should work toward self-control and autonomy. If sow peace, that would surely they would get in their harvest.

Finally: Do not ask for perfection, if you are as human as the rest. Some people have an overly positive view of themselves. They are assumed as a model for others. Almost always it is psycho-rigid people taking the adherence to standards as the only parameter to assess everyone. As they apparently meet the provisions to the letter, the right to qualify, judge and condemn others are attributed. They do not understand that perhaps leading to be as scrupulous may be fear or repression. They do not want to see that there are other ways of looking at life, as valid as yours. They are "perfect" but was not, because nobody is. But that fantasy justified to themselves, their demand for perfection in others..

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