Where has been our humanity? ... We live in a society that seems to feel is frowned upon. Children learning to mourn is bad, because it is for girls and shows weakness. Young people who prefer one-night not to harm them. Adults who have relationships with people who do not love. Elderly they are living alone because they are seen as a nuisance. It is time to overcome our fear of feeling.

It is difficult to see two people giving a hug on the street without being couple, saying "I love you" without sounding weird, mourn without feeling guilty or embarrassed us. It seems that we live in a culture of "no sense" because if we feel or talk about our feelings we are considered weak. So, instead of getting a hug with empathy and affection we receive jokes.

The fear of being hurt. Imagine that you are walking through a forest and has darkened. Suddenly you see a shadow and something moves, your brain puts your body on alert before identifying whether it is an animal or just the wind. This way of reacting is because our survival instinct. In the brain there is a small structure called the amygdala, which processes fear experiences. The amygdala is an emergency button that activates when danger lurks. The system is capable of activating the answer even before we are aware of the danger.

Studies have proven the existence of two types of neural cells in the amygdala who take turns to open and close the "gates" of fear. But studies should be viewed with caution because in humans other factors related to fear. For example, also plays an important role the prefrontal cortex, which puts the situation in context and makes the answer is not so automatic, but more elaborate.

If someone hurts us, whether a spouse, a boss or a relative, even with words that hurt us, the response of the amygdala would actively respond, but our pre-frontal cortex puts everything into context and makes us take a moment of reflection, if we can, before acting. On the other hand, we must consider that fear is largely influenced by our experience and may block our feelings.

At some point, or many, we have been hurt, but that does not mean it will always happen, and we need to change our behavior. In this situation, I come to my mind some ideas as a way to think to take away the armor covering our feelings: The first step and perhaps the most difficult to overcome a fear is to acknowledge it. What has happened in the past that makes us fear? What are we afraid of and why? A deep reflection about it will help us understand what is happening and to have a realistic view of the problem. Step II: We feel many things and sometimes we keep these feelings deep inside of us because of embarrassment or fear, without realizing that that shell get only hurts us ourselves. Perhaps we need help from others to talk about it or a specialist, but the important thing is to learn to know and to live what we feel. Step III: The painting, writing and all art forms can help us to express ourselves and to let out what we feel, boldly and without fear. The important thing is to find an activity that we like and encourage us to express ourselves and feel.

Finally: Feelings and emotions are the universal language that must be honored. They are the authentic expression of who we are.