Today I am going to write about a subject that catches my attention when listening to friends or watching on television, about the difficulties in emotional relationships, both marital, stable, in courtship and that has led me to think that something is happening in the lives of human beings. To my friends with whom I had the opportunity to speak on this subject, it occurred to me to ask them if they are really capable of answering this simple question: do they truly love the person they need or do they need it? And this would seem very crude but in reality, this question deserves an answer. It takes a lot of courage to visualize what kind of link we are involved in and how we are living what happens to us on a daily basis.

And a very common complaint when the person prepares to talk about his own personal history, is related to the fact that he is certain that he lived for the other, having renounced his most expensive interests based on a project that supposedly was common and that both shared, at first, to finally prove that routine, distance, and indifference, have settled permanently in that bond of love. And the need to please and live so that the other is happy culminates with the abandonment of our personal development scheme and all part of the erroneous belief that by giving up the spaces, trying that the other is always satisfied, we will be demonstrating a love and a delivery without limits.

And here we have to make a reservation. It is very good that a person who is carrying out a loving bond, wants his partner to feel good, attend to him, do his tastes and agree with his proposals, but this works in this way as long as there is a return, as long as the other person also wishes the same for his partner and also gives him the necessary spaces and what he needs to feel good. 

And the scenarios in which we move daily, as well as the landscapes that our eyes can enjoy every day, look differently over time. Every day dawns, every day there is a twilight where the sunset is an invitation to fully enjoy that wonderful majesty that nature has.

But if the heart is empty it will be very easy to get tired and bored because nothing, no one, no situation, will have enough emotion to get our attention. Hence, when a person is going through a difficult situation from the emotional point of view is not resolved either with a trip, or with a nice gift, because what is empty is the heart and when the heart is empty can only be filled with its spiritual fuel, with its natural fuel, which are the feelings, which is love, which is the need to share life with another person. 

But for the heart that has no motivation, existence can take place in the darkest tones and the days and nights have no satisfaction that allows that person to enjoy the joy of living. And become aware that each of us is unique beings, can renew the effort to discover what are the mysteries that that person to which we have turned.

It is true that it is very difficult to remain static, always with the same state of mind and that we all have the right that from time to time we are not with our receptors of sensitivity turned on to the maximum. But this can not be an excuse in any way for us not to realize when routine, boredom, and lack of desire to live have won us the game.

Before resigning - I think everyone does - it is necessary to look for and find new proposals, new projects that interpret the people we are today, fruits and consequences, a logical evolution that has made us different beings, with needs and yearnings that are different, that go hand in hand and that are consistent with our maturation process, as we go along the paths of life. 

If we act with sanity, with acceptance, and with a certain balance, together with an important dose of goodwill, we may be able to amend some situations that are very serious. In other cases, it really is not possible. It is not possible because of rigidity, it is not possible because there are people who are not able to recognize their own mistakes and their own way of acting. So that greatly discourages who is at your side.

Monotony, routine and lack of communication are the most finished expression of the failure of a relationship. And unfortunately we are living it, nowadays, in a dimension and in a magnitude, that alarms us. Success in a couple's life is based in the first instance on a common project. In an effort and a responsibility absolutely shared in being able to obtain what has been the proposal of the beginning of that link.

Patricio Varsariah.