Being happy is fundamental to living a full life, but what happens when you just cannot find happiness? We've all been there, you know ... those times when you just collapse. So many things are thrown at us every day; school, work, friends, family, love ... sometimes it's too much. This feeling can and will take control, and at some point, it will destroy you.

It happens to us sometimes you're blushing and sometimes you're ruined, and when you're awake, it's never as good as it seems, and when you're depressed, you never think you'll be standing again. "But life goes on.

I will be the first to admit that at one time I went crazy. Even the slightest negative thinking could take me from 100 to zero in a matter of seconds. I felt so caught up in my own thoughts about things, I could not see the whole picture and they brought me into this negative world of things that are wrong with me. I was constantly thinking about what I need to change, or why things happen, and I often wondered, "What was I thinking?"

Feeling alone or alone is the worst feeling in the world and there are different types of loneliness, which is probably the most difficult part. When you feel lonely because you feel lost in the world, it is a feeling of solitude completely different from the loneliness that comes from having a broken heart or losing someone you love. No matter what kind of loneliness you feel, it always reduces the fact that you now feel alone.

Sometimes we think we need to be progressing and advancing, that we need to be a ray of bright light all the time. But the truth is that we need times when we stop. Those moments are often when we feel more lost and alone. We are solving things, reassessing what we think we wanted. It helps us to rest in the knowledge that this moment is natural and normal, instead of telling ourselves that we must progress and move on.

I'm done feeling lonely. Why? It's because I realize that we are never really alone, and we all experience these feelings from time to time. We all know how rocky bottom feels, and we all know how awful it is to disappoint someone who cares. We have all had our hearts broken and we have fallen short on something we were trying to achieve. Insecurities can eat us alive and just because someone seems to have it all together does not mean that they really do. In addition, to accept what is, let go what was and had faith in what will be.

And then, one day, I decided to see what else was possible. If I could feel it any other way. If only I could feel better. And patience. Self-exploration And courage but I got there.

If you feel the way I felt then, here are some things I practice that help me when I feel lonely, sad and as low as possible and I would like to share with you.

But first, do not forget that the way you feel does not mean something is wrong with you. I hesitated to write this way. And I do not mean to sound harsh or insensitive. Accepting that life is a little sucky can sometimes help us to overcome the moments when we feel lost and alone. It does not mean that anything is wrong with you. It's just part of being alive.

1. Take a deep breath. Half my regrets are because I just did not take the time to stop, breathe and think about the big picture. Acting out of anger will not get you anywhere and crying over someone else will only give you a swollen face. When you feel that familiar sense of sadness begins to gestate, breathe deeply, think of things that make you happy, and instead of acting, act by doing something productive.

2. Face your difficulties. If what is making you sad can be solved and rationalized, do it. If this means talking to someone and telling them exactly how you feel, do it. If you feel fat because you've just eaten a whole pint of ice cream, make sure you never do that again and go for exercise. The result will not always go exactly as planned, but sulking in their sorrows will not help either. At least you will know that you faced your sadness head-on and tried to eliminate it.

3. Realize that there is a reason for everything. As I once said, good things crumble so that better things can fit together. Life is long, and if you take the right steps to reach your potential, you will solve it. Keep going.

4. Learn from your mistakes. "Madness: it's doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Einstein. We should all learn from this. No matter what, if it makes you feel bad, then it probably is not good to keep it in your life.

5. Separate your needs from your needs. You need things like water, food, and music (okay, maybe not, but it helps a lot). You do not need to be invited somewhere or you need someone to love you. Once you realize that what is making you lonely and sad is just a desire, you can thank you for all the things you have in your life that are necessary, and you will find peace in that.

6. Love yourself. No matter what is wrong, just remember who you are and how wonderful you are. If that guy you've been holding back for so long would have preferred to be with someone else, forget it. If you did not get that job you've wanted for years, work harder. Stay focused, be humble, but mostly stay in your own way. You'll get there, wherever it's supposed to be for you. 

7. Being alone can bring you peace. When we are alone, we face our feelings and our thoughts. It's harder to distract us. If we let these moments of feeling lost and alone be all that they can be, messy, uncomfortable, difficult, we can learn to handle them. We can learn that they do not need to be avoided. And that helps us feel stronger as if we could handle anything, and that brings us peace.

8. Feelings can heal you. All the emotions that arise when we feel lost and alone can point to what we need to heal within ourselves. They can be like signs on the road to freedom, saying, "Look here, go this way." The sadness I felt when I felt more alone was pointing my attention to the expectations I had of myself: that I had to be in a relationship to be happy, that I had to be busy and socializing all the time to be like other people, I had than to live an exciting life all the time. Letting go of those expectations helped me heal those misunderstandings within me. Without sadness and solitude, I would not have seen them. 

9. Finally: 
The sun will rise tomorrow. 
Okay, I know it could actually rain. But what will happen with certainty is that a new day will dawn. And at the dawn of a new day, you may feel better. 
Besides, be gentle. Be gentle. Take care We're all in this together. And there are other people who feel exactly the same way.


Life is like a bicycle; you have to keep moving to make it work. Never let others affect your happiness, and remember that our lives can change at any time. Appreciate the things you have and the things you want will come as a result of pure attraction. Free yourself, realize who you are and be grateful. Your happiness and quality of life depend on it.

The right words at the right time have the power to change things. They strengthen you, provoke you, inspire you, support you, change you and speak directly to your heart. Let these words inspire possibilities every day of your life.

And, of course, if you are struggling with any of these points, know that you are not alone. We are all in this together. Many of us are there with you, working hard to feel better, think more clearly and keep our lives up to date.

Patricio.

* Keep these words in your mind and if you want to share with someone.