of the absurd idea ...
Publicado por Patricio Varsariah el miércoles, octubre 4, 2017
Today I touch the theme of "Perfection". Let us look at what a well-known dictionary says about the term perfection: "The perfect, for its part, is what has no errors, defects or deficiencies: it is, therefore, something of the highest possible level" (italics are mine ). If you are going to live under this standard, every day will be a torture, because you will have to crush again and again to try to "reach the unattainable", since not having "errors, defects or deficiencies" is impossible.
And also, why should you "reach the maximum level possible" defined by experts in competitiveness? Is not it enough to grow to the point where you live quietly and at peace with yourself, without trying to break any Guinness records?
Healthy life cohabits with simplicity, is to strive without anxiety, induced by passion and enthusiasm, of course, but not by the desperation to be outstanding at any cost. The ancient Greeks, who preached and practiced wisdom, knew that they would never reach it fully. Being "wise" was a horizon, a referent to which they aspired, and the enjoyment was in going to him.
What would happen if we made the development of our values a permanent improvement, relaxed and unpretentious, to be unique and special?
But if we see the definition of imperfect, the question becomes worse: "It does not have all the qualities required or desirable to be good or the best of its kind" (italics mine). Yes, you have read well: if you are not the "best of your kind", you will be almost an anomalous being, excluded from the group of distinguished. In opposition to this perfectionist delirium, you could think in a healthier and more realistic way: "If my way of being is not harmful to me or for anyone, then I will be as I want, no matter what position I occupy with respect to my gender '.
The further you move away from the absurd idea of "psychological and emotional perfection," the closer you will come to an unconditional acceptance of yourself, obviously without ignoring your usual and fascinating natural and human imperfection. As you can read throughout the writing, you do not need exceptional qualities or go for some special attribute to feel proud of who you are. The key is to aim for sustainable personal growth, without asking pears to the helm (we are the helm) and without self-esteem is affected.
From what you are and not what you should be or have: of your real strengths. When you make the decision to accept yourself unconditionally and without excuses, you will discover your path. "You are your own light," and even if you are not the brightest in the world, it will be yours, it will be your original and true light, your own and untransferable.
A well-worn life is one in which joy and enjoyment outweigh the pain.
Once, a preacher was giving his talk and returning again and again to the subject of the Good News that would change humanity: everyone could be saved if certain precepts were followed. A very old spiritual master who was listening intently interrupted to ask: "What kind of good news is this, that makes it so easy to go to hell and so difficult to go to heaven?" The preacher changed the subject.
So let's reverse the options: that welfare is not the exception, that obtaining inner peace is not a task for titans. Let us break the molds and reacquodate our expectations to a deep and serene change, whose epicenter is the strengthening of an "I" that respects and accepts itself in a radical way, no matter how. Keep in mind that personal worth is never at stake. The slogan is decisive: you can be scandalously happy in the midst of your wonderful imperfection.
To mistreat you because you are not as "you should be" is to end your human potential You need more energy to destroy yourself than to build a little happiness. The stupid habit of pounding the "I" and feeling satisfied for it. Here is an irrational, perfectionist mandate that plunges millions of people into the world: If you want to get ahead and be above the majority, you have to give yourself hard and to call tripe Sorry for penitential fans, but life is not a training in martial arts.
One thing is intelligent effort and another is the irrational scourge to "harden." The offices are overcrowded with people who, because of this mandate, only see what is bad about themselves or mistreat them because it is not as it should be. Despite the apparent cult of pleasure and self-indulgence in postmodernity, the depression due to psychological self-punishment has grown and deepened, although many face hedonists.
In the race towards perfection, who has not looked in the mirror ever and has released a profound: "How tired!"? We believe in the story of the superhero or the Wonder Girl, assimilate it, put it on fire in our database and run with those weights as if we were destined for greatness. A belief that accompanies the previous mandate and reinforces it is the following: "I must not allow myself any failure if I want to succeed. The slightest error must be drastically sanctioned and eliminated. " Self-punishment in a pure state: not only do you become a perfectionist of your own being, but you are beaten and, in addition, you feel satisfied by the "duty fulfilled."
The need for unattainable excellence is engrafted into the brain and develops into an inner epidemic that drives you to abuse you if you deviate from the "right path." Here is born and settled the interior executioner who whispers evil: "You are not up to the level of what you should be."
What to do? The best option is to rebel against this way of thinking, that our body reverses the self-destructive process and change punishment by compassion, and rejection by acceptance.
I insist: you will never be psychologically perfect and, you do not need to be so to have a good life. I do not want to be the best, I want to be complete.
Today I touch the theme of "Perfection". Let us look at what a well-known dictionary says about the term perfection: "The perfect, for its part, is what has no errors, defects or deficiencies: it is, therefore, something of the highest possible level" (italics are mine ). If you are going to live under this standard, every day will be a torture, because you will have to crush again and again to try to "reach the unattainable", since not having "errors, defects or deficiencies" is impossible.
And also, why should you "reach the maximum level possible" defined by experts in competitiveness? Is not it enough to grow to the point where you live quietly and at peace with yourself, without trying to break any Guinness records?
Healthy life cohabits with simplicity, is to strive without anxiety, induced by passion and enthusiasm, of course, but not by the desperation to be outstanding at any cost. The ancient Greeks, who preached and practiced wisdom, knew that they would never reach it fully. Being "wise" was a horizon, a referent to which they aspired, and the enjoyment was in going to him.
What would happen if we made the development of our values a permanent improvement, relaxed and unpretentious, to be unique and special?
But if we see the definition of imperfect, the question becomes worse: "It does not have all the qualities required or desirable to be good or the best of its kind" (italics mine). Yes, you have read well: if you are not the "best of your kind", you will be almost an anomalous being, excluded from the group of distinguished. In opposition to this perfectionist delirium, you could think in a healthier and more realistic way: "If my way of being is not harmful to me or for anyone, then I will be as I want, no matter what position I occupy with respect to my gender '.
The further you move away from the absurd idea of "psychological and emotional perfection," the closer you will come to an unconditional acceptance of yourself, obviously without ignoring your usual and fascinating natural and human imperfection. As you can read throughout the writing, you do not need exceptional qualities or go for some special attribute to feel proud of who you are. The key is to aim for sustainable personal growth, without asking pears to the helm (we are the helm) and without self-esteem is affected.
From what you are and not what you should be or have: of your real strengths. When you make the decision to accept yourself unconditionally and without excuses, you will discover your path. "You are your own light," and even if you are not the brightest in the world, it will be yours, it will be your original and true light, your own and untransferable.
A well-worn life is one in which joy and enjoyment outweigh the pain.
Once, a preacher was giving his talk and returning again and again to the subject of the Good News that would change humanity: everyone could be saved if certain precepts were followed. A very old spiritual master who was listening intently interrupted to ask: "What kind of good news is this, that makes it so easy to go to hell and so difficult to go to heaven?" The preacher changed the subject.
So let's reverse the options: that welfare is not the exception, that obtaining inner peace is not a task for titans. Let us break the molds and reacquodate our expectations to a deep and serene change, whose epicenter is the strengthening of an "I" that respects and accepts itself in a radical way, no matter how. Keep in mind that personal worth is never at stake. The slogan is decisive: you can be scandalously happy in the midst of your wonderful imperfection.
To mistreat you because you are not as "you should be" is to end your human potential You need more energy to destroy yourself than to build a little happiness. The stupid habit of pounding the "I" and feeling satisfied for it. Here is an irrational, perfectionist mandate that plunges millions of people into the world: If you want to get ahead and be above the majority, you have to give yourself hard and to call tripe Sorry for penitential fans, but life is not a training in martial arts.
One thing is intelligent effort and another is the irrational scourge to "harden." The offices are overcrowded with people who, because of this mandate, only see what is bad about themselves or mistreat them because it is not as it should be. Despite the apparent cult of pleasure and self-indulgence in postmodernity, the depression due to psychological self-punishment has grown and deepened, although many face hedonists.
In the race towards perfection, who has not looked in the mirror ever and has released a profound: "How tired!"? We believe in the story of the superhero or the Wonder Girl, assimilate it, put it on fire in our database and run with those weights as if we were destined for greatness. A belief that accompanies the previous mandate and reinforces it is the following: "I must not allow myself any failure if I want to succeed. The slightest error must be drastically sanctioned and eliminated. " Self-punishment in a pure state: not only do you become a perfectionist of your own being, but you are beaten and, in addition, you feel satisfied by the "duty fulfilled."
The need for unattainable excellence is engrafted into the brain and develops into an inner epidemic that drives you to abuse you if you deviate from the "right path." Here is born and settled the interior executioner who whispers evil: "You are not up to the level of what you should be."
What to do? The best option is to rebel against this way of thinking, that our body reverses the self-destructive process and change punishment by compassion, and rejection by acceptance.
I insist: you will never be psychologically perfect and, you do not need to be so to have a good life. I do not want to be the best, I want to be complete.