From my experience this writing about life has ups and downs and can not always be overcome arises, but we can change what we feel. There is a close and dependent relationship between our psyche, emotions, behavior and physical health. Influence and affect bidirectionally. Situations such as chronic pain, lack of work, a breakup, queuing at the bank or the same traffic generated in our negative thoughts, even catastrophic: "I'm sick, I can not help", "This pain limits me and I can not do anything, I removed until the will to live ", and so on. The mind can be our main ally, but also our greatest rival.Las people tend to blame and curse the environment, to what happens around us, because we identified as the cause of our discomfort and suffering. But the outside causes us discomfort, or are our interpretations of what happens around us what determines our emotions ?. I am convinced that our thoughts influence our behavior and our emotions. Depending on the current psychological will define as  as negative thoughts, catastrophic, limiting, destructive or useless. What difference does the concept. What matters is the power they have to influence us, both positively and negatively. It causes victim hood think more about what does not work that well so far.

Many people claim to have the head like a washing machine. Ideas, fears, terrifying speeches, thoughts that will not stop spinning in mind. They feel trapped between words, unable to stop them or neglect them. There are people who hate relationships with themselves because "their mind tells them" they cause tremendous anguish. Here are two good news. The first: you are largely responsible for what he feels. It is the environment that generates anxiety, but the interpretation you make of the environment. This will responsible and also allows you to monitor and act on what you feel. Many would like to break away from everything and keep blaming their discomfort to society and how bad everything is. But this option limits you and leaves you with no resources.

The second good news is that you can modify their cognitive style at the time to decide to train another way of thinking. Hundreds of thousands of people get to prepare and finish a marathon despite how hard this test. But when we talk about change related to the psyche, we associate it immediately with difficulty, lack of willpower and our way of being, and questioned the possibility of change. There are some tips that help me a lot to put thought at bay and I would like to share with you.

First: Forget the idea of ​​becoming a super-super-positive and optimistic person. The world is not pink, but not a black and hostile place. It is seeking the usefulness of what you think. Thoughts and emotions are useful when they allow us to resolve what worries and useless to us when we can not do anything to relieve us. Trust and delegate, and in so doing allow others to act with autonomy. Excessive control generates anxiety. When you delegate that what can not be responsible, imagine a switch on the mind and set it off each time it appears again concern. Stop paying attention to the useless is not irresponsible. On the contrary, it allowed to be in the present. What is irresponsible is to have a working meeting and that his mind from turning to a problem you can not solve much I want that state and prevent concentrate on the only thing that can attend: the meeting.

Second: It is good to write not about distrusting memory, but to facilitate the change of thinking needs to catch the habit of writing what you want to think. Writing is organized behavior and facilitates learning. You remember how he learned to do without misspellings? A repetition. The master detected a fault and you repeated it 10 times in his notebook. He did not learn to write correctly just thinking that I had to. It took a process. The same is now required to modify their cognitive style.

Third: Stop ruminating. Many laps to their concerns is the problem, not the solution. Rumination looking for arguments that left alone, hoping to find that brilliant idea with which to calm his emotions. But our brain is not appeased uncontrollable mulling ideas. Instead of so much back, think of solutions. Instead of focusing on "why it happened this to me?", Take your energy to "what I have to do, how I can involve finding a solution?". Think always add up.

Fourth: Do not rationalize everything, because not everything has a logical reasoning. Life is math, science, but also intuition and feelings. Learn to live with a degree of uncertainty and make decisions with little risk. Consider the error as part of the game. It generates the idea that peace can be wrong and that in the event of failure, find solutions to try again. Generated pressure to be perfect increase their level of fear and anxiety, and thus errors. And that's what we want to avoid.

Fifth: Accept what does not depend on you. Internal discourses related to how unfair life is and what is not worth but has touched only lead you to feel miserable. We've all ever lived unfair side of life. Its existence has problems and has wonderful moments. But victimhood, lack of resources or low self-esteem can lead to attend, speak and think more about what does not work that well so far. Change your vision and speech. Do not put your finger on it, especially with folders past. Accept. OK is not resigned. Detracting from what does not. If every concern becomes a personal battle, you will be fighting day and night. You and your value are the ones to decide whether it is important or not. Do not look for solutions in the evenings. We tend to see everything so much more catastrophic. The nights are for sleeping, not to solve dilemmas.

Sixth: Anticipate what can happen negatively not protect you. Often anticipate what not depend on us, "Surely the teacher puts a very difficult test," "I did not inspire any confidence this game, the opponent is going to give everything." Many of their fears concern a future that will not happen. In the end, everything ends up going well, but it is true that it is not as tragic as predicted. He has devoted himself to suffer for situations that do not pass or, if they occur, will not be as terrible as imagined. Anticipatory fear only increases your level of anxiety and concern. Prevents you from being aware of what works and generates the feeling of living in a threatening world. When this happens, replace their fear of the future by a simple "well, it could be, what has to be will be."

Seventh: Make fun than you think. What we seem absurd some of the ideas to past bull! Try to do the exercise to see the comic part in the actual moment. Appreciating the humorous side gives control over their concerns and emotions. Humor also trains. Do not discard not be skillful and agile with him. Watch movies, talk with people who laugh at themselves and verify that you will soon spread. Challenge your fears. "But you, did you go be me?" "Am I going to be intimidated by you? But if you have even half a slap. " Speak in this tone to your fears make you feel superior to them.

Finally: Do not be absurd conversations with his thoughts. Do not get tangled in them. Your negative thoughts are seeking your attention tantrums, and how you feel anxious, it lends. Contemplates as if they were with you. What speaks in his favor are his actions, not what you think. Let them be on your mind, as one who accepts a freckle on my arm. If you do not listen, they will stop nag. When they appear, say, "Thank you, mind," and take your focus elsewhere.

Remember, you can not "no thoughts" much to torment him. What it does is to choose other, "life is to choose, can choose to be a victim or anything else you set your mind".