Today I want to write about a very human attitude, even understandable, but it is tiring and suffocating and is complaining. With complaints, attention is attracted others; foreign aid is achieved and bad behavior is justified. The complaints allow disguise our own fault and anesthetize our will, which helps us require us increasingly comfortable living like and epidermal manner. Complaints are one of the main obstacles to human beings evolve and be happy. Imagine a world (or simply imagine your home) where complaints were requests and problems to become challenges. In that world does not exist because they get something frustrations would not be a failure but a challenge to endure to get it.

When you complain (so many times!) That your kids complain, and you're complaining. And with your complaints, you play in a vicious cycle dynamics of complaints. Do they or do you begin? Have you ever stopped to think how many times a day you complain about something?

We complained about the bad weather, how expensive it is fish, of the boss, what's on TV, how bad does the car, how bad I slept that night, how lonely you feel, lack of time. We murmurings of the children because they do not study, do homework, no teeth are cleaned, backpacks forget, they fight among themselves, disrespect you. You do not realize but, without being aware, we spent the day complaining. It is a very human attitude, even understandable, but it is tiring and suffocating. And if we did an act of reflection, we would realize that many times, we belong to this group. Of course life is difficult but. What do we gain by complaining?
   
The attitude towards the problems should be challenge, improvement and optimism. If you have a problem, we react and seek a solution. And if you can not change it, accept it and be a lesson for the future. Stop complaining, please! Over the next month, put this goal: identify your complaints to diminish gradually. To help you out, wears a bracelet, a ring, a coin in your pocket (any small object you can carry around) and every time you complain you, switch sides. This will help you keep track of your words and identify your complaints. The fewer changes, less complaints. And if we can not stop complaining, we select well the complaints coming out of the mouth so that they are less possible and the most important. Gradually removed from life those unconscious complaints sour character and that of those around. Because, like it or not, a person often complains is not a pleasant company.
   
Learn and enseñemo occasion to complain: Do not complain that you can always be worse. Some of our children have grown up with the habit of complaining about everything: what they have, what they have, their obligations, food or clothing. And they complain, often because they have too many privileges, privileges that they understand as rights.
Even they themselves realize they complain. They are so used it as an unconscious habit. They complain because they do not ask or request things but the demand because they think first and then others. And especially because (we want to recognize it or not) we were unable to stop this behavior from small and, on many occasions, until we have encouraged and surrounding them with too many material comforts overprotection. Not saying that our own example is often not very enlightening in this regard.
   
What to do? Well I tell you what to my father, he gave us reason to complain. If I complained to clean my shoes, I said to clean the whole family. If I complained that I did not like dinner, would not let me eat anything (not suffer, your child is well fed and nothing will happen if no dinner that night. Lesson worth I learned that Brussels sprouts or peas can become a great privilege) .If I complained that I only put half a glass of lemonade drink I ordered half of that lemonade. Then eventually I realized that before was lucky to have half a glass. Now only he had half his half. In this way he got two things to be aware that I'm complaining (often or I realized as part of my communication style) and they noticed me that my complaint was free and unjustified and that, in fact, the previous situation could be considered a privilege.

The secret to be effective this advice is your attitude. When you correct it and give it cause to complain, do not do it with irony or as punishment (error: Well, if you complain about this, now you see!). Get serious and, with affection and decision, tell when you complain: Only I have asked you to collect your dishes, something that is your obligation and hoped to fulfill without complaint; now I want you to pick up other dishes besides yours, the family please. I want you to realize that you had no reason to complain before. Now I can understand your complaints.