Today I want to write about the practice of personal freedom and the art of assertiveness. Stop giving explanations of each everything we do, and it's true: who loves you does not need it and who respects you will not understand what you want. We should not live giving explanations for everything we do: it is a source of unnecessary stress. No need to justify our way of being and to judge you just for being different, for being unique. Who loves you, respects you. So we avoid falling into the culture of "to say" and protect our privacy, our essences.

Something that characterizes today's society is that there are fees for everything from physical appearance to what is considered "biologically" normal, like get married, have children, etc. Social pressure and even family often requires us to have to give explanations for everything we do (or choose not to do). Importantly, we should start doing today is to reflect on the number of times we justify to others. Overdoing it is to fall into inconsistencies, unnecessary suffering and cost overruns. You, Me are our own judges and assertive rights have to say, "no, I'm not going to explain that none of your business at all."

Now we must learn to deal with all those who dare to question our "life decisions".
- How could you not married? - When are you going to settle down and find a good job - and why not have another child etc ..?. The most complex of these situations, is that judges who value our decisions or "shares" are precisely those closest relatives, hence, the pressure and the feeling of stress is higher.

To understand a little better the most common sources of suffering, it is necessary to consider these dimensions in which we all can see identified. A common error that we tend to fall is that we condition stressful we need to design our lives looking for the pleasure of others (and especially to our families).

Another aspect to consider is he who has made his personal life a public forum where every act, choice or thought must be loud to find acceptance. It is something that we see often in our social networks: "A like" is a positive reinforcement with which to feel good after publishing a thought or a photo.

The fear of "what people say" is still present today. There are those who see the need to justify everything he does not "break" the circle of control in which to act or not to explain is to be singled out as different.

I would like to share some rules that have applied in my life and is doing things rather than talk about them, because things, to be done, speak for themselves and need no explanation. I like my personality: I need not like everyone. My personality is authentic and do not need to pretend that I am not to please everyone. While I practice the value of personal dignity, I am not a slave to anyone, and do not need others to be happy approvals. It is vital that we reach this conclusion as soon as possible in our life cycle. It is an aspect that we should practice to achieve a proper inner balance and emotional well-being. I'm not like you expect it, accept me for what I define, for my personality, my way to make you happy: build a world where neither you nor we force us to stop being "you and me". I know it's not always easy to act in this way. Within us, we feel that if we do not like the whole world will not be accepted. However, life is not built with the need to like: we know enough to respect,

Merely to develop and implement assertive strategies, improve our health and quality of our social relationships. We all have assertive rights, that is, can and should have your own opinions and beliefs, entitled to evaluate your feelings and behaviors, and to accept them as valid even if others do not look good or not accept. Now ... How to internalize and apply these pillars in our next reality?

We have the right to give or not to give explanations ...: truly responsible for what we do, feel or chose it ourselves. If others want and respect us, they do not need our justifications. Sets limits diplomatically: when a family member, for example, insists that you give an explanation about something that does not concern you put limits with courtesy and always use short sentences: "It is my decision," "because I like it," because I'm happy with my life. " Assume that sometimes explanation is useless: it is something we must accept that there are those who understand what you want, and often demand an explanation is already a criticism or a way to humiliate. Learn to ignore the empty critical and must not stress. Avoid unnecessary suffering. Before giving an explanation think if what we say help improve something, to solve or prevent one aspect in particular. If not, we do not worry, we smile and let's just keep quiet.