Today I want to write about a phrase I  hear in a conversation with friends  that I found very interesting, that phrase was: "If you are not connected you are not in the world". Since beliefs organize the worlds they inhabit, for many people the idea of ​​staying connected all day creates the illusion that they are an active part of society in which they live. They just convinced of the strength of his opinions, his influential capacity, the interest aroused in others even to speak ill of them. There is a lot of narcissism in a culture that claims to "hang on the Red" all his life (photos, views, symbols, tastes and prejudices). It is the form found post-modernity recreate the feeling of belonging. Either you are or you're nobody. Who would want us to believe?

Every soul is and becomes what he sees. When one spends the day chatting, responding to the minute before all that happens, or is your work, or is caught in the net, never better. Perhaps the idea of ​​being connected all day hides more difficult: filled with something that does not exist. It's just a passing mirage. As the addict, you need to escape the vacuum itself, or pain, or sadness, to embrace what happens there, in an apparent world where not stop things happen, actually, they go to others. There is no doubt that interpersonal communication has been disrupted by the obligation of connectivity. today appear multiple forms of conflict between couples, parents and children or work colleagues. Not only for reasons of misunderstandings and assumptions about the messages, but by the demands that are attributed to connectivity: you have to be always available. There is a conflict, again, between freedom and necessity strain.

Confidence today is not based on sincerity, but on the evidence. Ingenious mobile applications have a controlling counterpart cops can make us other. How come you were connected and did not answer me? I know that you get the message, where were you? Show me the conversation if it's true that you have nothing to hide! Who are those photos? This most common being overwhelmed, subjected to a torrent of stimuli that require our attention perpetual feeling. The obligation to be connected invades all areas of society and everyday life becomes a strenuous affair.

Mobile, chats, messages are today a source of suspicion. We do not trust the person, but the instrument as if it were the truth machine. There are people who confesses to having done the unthinkable: get into the Internet account your partner; rummage mobile conversations; see page history and places you visit ... Do not be mobile in sight or close the computer password is a source of anguish and evil purposes. They can not be understood as acts of freedom or autonomy. They are evidence that the relationship subject to consideration.

Is a real discomfort relate privacy with deception. In other words, if someone cheats it will not be because of the instruments. Instead, it uses as permanent evidence of sincerity and loyalty become an attack on personal plot and an excessive control to relational space. The requirement of transparency can become a dangerous necessity. We must learn to be responsible and settle freely, if any, the underlying problems of any relationship.

One of the most striking features of life in connectivity is its ability to break the barriers of time. Today we live late challenge, but the immediacy and the break are imposed. In the case of immediacy there is already talk of an obsession to stay connected and active, to the point of driving texting. We played life by not having patience, believing that we are obliged to respond immediately, because we have accelerated both the existence and forget we live. Account only once. It has to do more than to experience the picture. He hurries which sends the message and hurries which awaits.

On the other hand, it would be interesting to see the hours spent online. No matter the content, but your entertainment. There is no room for more while we are at the halftime in which, in fact, absolutely nothing happens. Because the important thing is that with few words. Because what really matters happens. The rest is mere distraction. In the end it might be good to start off or at least reduce the times and the need to stay plugged in. In fact, more and more people who proclaim their networks appear low. Live it as a liberation, and who lightens a heavy burden, an obligation.

It is necessary to recover the rhythm itself, be consistent with our way of being and living. Not to be accelerated; no need to meet all the demands, do not know everything, or keep up with whatever happens. We must reject unnecessary communications and put attention on what really has value. It must be isolated from many stimuli and communicative much noise. You have to find time for yourself, for real relationships, and even to do nothing, to simply contemplate. There is a great ally: the silence. And there is a strategy: the happiness of being untraceable.

The ultimate paradox is this: devices that connect us also allow disconnection. Thus, technology is not to blame for our ills, but our attitude to it. Entanglement is a decision. Appropriate time and space, a liberation.