When you are young, it is easy to feel angry and protest by many things, but then you realize that if one gets controlled causes fewer problems.

Some people have the emotional satisfaction of talking about how bad they are others. However, when someone speaks negatively, it is more likely to associate the listener negativity that speaks ill of another this action is called spontaneous trait transference. It needs to be a great person to accept and internalize their own responsibility for what happens. It does not try to load all the blame when there is responsible, but to be able to accept responsibility when it really belongs.

If all the fault of someone else, then what part I play in my own life ?, my actions remain without consequences ?, I am so helpless? Knowing that we accept our responsibility when things go wrong also means that we accept responsibility when things go well.

We must develop the capacity to be objective enough about ourselves to be able to avoid assuming that we could have probably never created problems. We also need to distinguish between accepting responsibility and punish us unduly. If something does not work, look for the cause, but not any cause, it's easy to be creative and find some reason to blame someone else. We must learn to relax and overcome the need to seek responsibilities as first objective, tolerate the temporary uncertainty of not knowing how to get a broader perspective on things. It takes time. Find a guilty does not solve anything.

We must stop blaming others for your problems and take control. Blaming others and circumstances is an easy way of not taking responsibility itself, a way to apologize in front of what happens. But it is also the most effective way of losing control over one's life. Many people need to blame others and / or circumstances, because the victims feel also justify what happens. So no need to do anything, and just complain and wait with them, as if that were enough.

People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I do not believe in circumstances. People who progresses in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if you can not find them, make them. We need to find a cause.
Uncertainty is not something that is easy to live. We need to know where, what and why, maintain control and know that somehow is going to solve the problem. Thus, if the fault of another, the responsibility for the solution well.

Finding someone to blame can give us the feeling that you have corrected a problem when we have not really understood its cause and effect. But blaming others were offside, at the mercy of what might happen, without any ability to handle us. Be objective when it comes to acknowledging a mistake is the way to improve and develop. No progress as human beings simply to survive and arm ourselves against the world. We must develop the capacity to respond to life and provide feedback to ourselves avoiding the effects of low self-esteem or vanity.

There is no shame in making a mistake or fail at something. Only proper feedback on the causes allow us to leverage to improve. Avoiding mistakes do not grow, but by analyzing their causes and recognizing the weaknesses and limitations and to seek remedy. Forget the blame and focus on doing things better. For some people blame it is everything. But then, what remains is solved ?, something with that? Forget the guilt and focus on your goal, you can fix it and change whatever is necessary to improve and make things right. Blame your mistakes to your nature does not change the nature of your mistakes.